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Short Hair, Don’t Care.

We do this thing sometimes, girls, about not doing or wearing or being something that we want, because we think it doesn’t suit us. We put ourselves down before we’ve even gotten going. That won’t suit me or oh no, not with my body shape or my face won’t suit that. 

I used to do that a lot. Ever since I was first introduced to lipstick I wanted to go bright red, get all voluminous and Marilyn it up. But I didn’t, for a long time.

My face is too chubby, it’ll draw too much attention to my chin(s)

I’ve got the wrong skin colouring for red lipstick

It won’t suit me

So for years I wore nowt but an (admittedly lovely) coffee colour that was unadventurously similar to my actual lip color (just a little more polished and a little less chapped).

Then, M.A.C’s Marilyn Monroe limited edition range of makeup was released. It seems stupid to say that this was my corner point in giving zero craps whether a lipstick suited me or not but it was. In the luscious set was a glorious, glorious deep red lipstick called Charmed, I’m Sure, and I fell in love. I had to have it and I had to wear it.

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Charmed, I’m Sure – Marilyn Monroe range from M.A.C

I found that strutting down the street in my beautiful lipstick made me feel amazing. What else mattered? I’ve since amassed an array of different lipsticks that I would never think would suit me, but that I wear with confidence and have never felt any shred of doubt.

So when it came, a few weeks ago, the urge to cut all my hair off and go controversially short, I did it.

I’m a big girl. It’s something I’m continuously working on and that I’m happy with my efforts and progress, but I’ve still got a ways to go. When I mentioned my desire for a pixie-like cut I was met with wide eyes and hesitation.

“That’s not the most flattering haircut…”

It will just emphasise your round face.”

“Those cuts only suit thin girls.”

I asked a hairdresser a couple months ago for the cut and she short-circuited me, made me doubt myself and in the end did what she thought would suit me better. A similar cut but much longer. To hide my face. When I got home I was almost angry with myself. I knew what I wanted, I knew what would make me happy and I’d let her change that because it wouldn’t suit me.

Last weekend, just before our sunny holiday (which I am currently enjoying very much, by the way!) I visited a different hairdresser and asked for the same thing. I was prepared to stick to my guns but I didn’t need to, she was a doll, loved my ideas and gave me exactly what I wanted and I love it.

It might not look right on me. It might accentuate my chins. But I feel amazing in it and for that reason it suits me excellently. I wear my short hair and my red lipstick and I just don’t care. I feel awesome, so I look awesome.

Pow short hair!
Whatever it is you think won’t suit you, just DO IT!

So, ladies, my message is: whatever it is, it does suit you, if you love it. Happiness looks good on everyone.

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Photo Credits; Lipstick

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22 thoughts on “Short Hair, Don’t Care.

  1. I smiled the whole way through reading this post!
    What an amazing journey in self-love ….First the red lipstick and then the gorgeous, short haircut!
    You’ve reminded me to “stick to my guns” too when it comes to what will make me happy…not listening to the voices or opinions of anyone else.
    You look absolutely, positively radiant in this photo! Plus, your confidence shines through along with your lipstick and haircut that suit you so well.
    ENJOY!

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    1. Thank you so much! I must admit, I’m still learning to love myself, but it’s a whole lot easier when you’re not working against yourself!
      Definitely stick to you guns, if it makes you happy, who cares?!
      Thanks for your lovely comment! 🙂

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  2. I love the hair, love the lips, and hate that some hairdressers won’t listen to their clients! So glad you found a good one! The only time I discourage anyone from a short cut is when they are pregnant, only because rash decisions made during pregnancy don’t normally end well! Lol! I would definitely do it though if the client was certain and asked for it. You rock it, girl! 😃

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    1. Haha! Actually when I asked for it the second hairdresser did say “a bit like Victoria Beckham’s used to be, yeah?.”
      There is a little Marilyn on there! I love the case as much as I love the actual lipstick, I’ll be distraught when I run out of it. Why are the best always the limited edition ones?!
      🙂

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  3. I’ve been thinking about this whole issue a lot lately, so I was glad to see your thoughts on it. When you’re big, the conventional wisdom is that everything you do and everything you wear should be focused on the goal of making you look thinner. Clothes that do that are the ones people push you toward and compliment you for wearing (and I hadn’t even thought about haircuts in this way, but you’re right about them being part of this as well.) I’m also trying to focus on what makes me feel good, rather than what I’m “supposed” to wear for my size, and I love it; it seems to me that what you’re doing when you do that is putting yourself and your own needs at the center of your own life, rather than putting what others want at the center. And you–and what you really love, and what makes you feel good–should be the star of your show, right?

    Thanks for this post, and I think you look fantastic and happy in your new haircut!

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    1. I completely agree with everything you’ve said here! You – or me, y’know – are the only one living inside your skin, living your life. If you’re not happy, what’s the point? It’s something I still definitely struggle with. The idea that it’s only important that I like it and feel good and happy is something I have to keep remembering.
      There’s no point wearing the most “slimming” clothes and feeling awful and ashamed of yourself in them. It’s all just another way for society to tell you that your end-game should just be to look as skinny as possible and that that in itself should make you happy. No thanks!
      I don’t want to wait until I’m a size 10 to be happy with myself.
      I hope you carry on wearing what makes you happy, because that confidence and happiness that shines through when you’re comfortable makes all the difference.
      Thank you so much! 🙂

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  4. That’s a lovely shade!
    I wear a muted shade every day. I bought a very bright Urban Decay hue summer before last but then I developed a rash from anxiety on my face that lasted the entire school year. I never wore it and I fear it’s “gone bad” by now.

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  5. HM, I am so sorry. You’re such a good commenter, with continuously encouraging comments and I am a bad blogger. There, I’ve said it. Because of this I missed this lovely post and it makes me so happy to read.

    You look awesome with that cut and I can only see how awesome your face is. You rock the living sh*t out of that lipstick too. I had a similar experience with my fringe, and one day I did it anyway and it changed everything. Your attitude is freaking brilliant.

    Big big love to you xoxo

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